Error message

Notice: Undefined index: und in BeanBagLatestMedia->view() (line 130 of /home/relmag/public_html/sites/default/modules/bean_bag/plugins/bean/bean_bag_latest_media.inc).

"Let God Write Your Love Story"

When my husband and I got married, I was ticked at how many people threw marriage books at us. We accumulated at least 15 books within a matter of one month—and it made me feel like I didn’t matter before as a single person. Not once had anyone given me a book to help me navigate life as a single girl. Sure, I bought I Kissed Dating Goodbye for myself because it was popular, but the concept only confirmed my worst fear: I would be single forever.

My whole life I tried hard not to believe the lie that only married people matter. Whenever I would visit a Christian bookstore, I noticed there were many shelves dedicated to marriage books. But for the single person, the books took up only one shelf.

This seems unbalanced to me. Married people are not the only ones deserving of life guidance; singles are making quality decisions that determine the direction of their life, and not just one decision, but many: Who are you going to befriend? What school will you go to? How are you going to pay for it? What job are you going to pursue? Where will you live and travel? What church will you invest into?

"Who are you going to marry?" is neither the only nor the most important question on that list.

Clichés That Make Us Cringe

If you’re single, chances are you’ve heard the clichés. You’ve heard so many you could probably fill a book with them. In my opinion, these two are the absolute worst when it comes to relationships: “Until you learn to be content in your singleness, God won’t bring you a spouse,” and, “Until you stop looking for your spouse, there he/she will be.”

But let’s be honest: Clichés don’t work. I spent most of my 20s as a single woman, and if there’s anything I’ve learned, it’s that love stories differ. There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to romance.

I don’t know about you, but I hated being single. I hated advertising my relationship status on Facebook. At the very least, I thought I deserved a boyfriend. Didn’t following God, starting my own ministry and helping churches across America at least deserve a first date with someone?

I remember many dateless Valentine's Days on which I prayed: "Come on, God. Help me write my own love story!"

I read dating books to find my spouse sooner. I tried online dating. I followed the rules, advice and clichés from older women who had been there, done that. Nothing I did worked. However—and I hope you hear me on this—I’m so glad I waited because God needed to school me in a few areas. I had a lot to learn through my singleness. It wasn’t just a time of waiting around for the phone to ring.

Waiting Actively

I used my single years to figure out where I wanted to go and what made me tick. I pursued my passions. I finished my education. I managed my finances. I paid off all my debts. (Except for my student loans—those are going to take a while.)

Changes occurred internally as well. I discovered my worth as a singular person. I chose to no longer believe the lie that I was too fat to be in a relationship. I learned to let go of the media’s portrayal of the perfect man would take my breath away and fill me with purpose, and God taught me how to find my significance in Him.

I’ll be honest: It was a struggle. As I entered my late 20s, it had been eight years since my last long-term relationship. But instead of waiting around passively, I learned to pursue life. I traveled, spoke, wrote books, created and had fun. I saw life from the viewpoint of contentment. For the first time, that rosy hue wasn’t because I was drinking someone else’s Kool Aid. I clearly saw my single life as worth something. I loved the thought that God was positioning me—whether single or married—to bring glory to Him through my life, ministry and work.

Serving God Solo or Together

During those single years of discovering my passion for life, I still thought how great it would be to bring God glory together with another. And perhaps, when God brought Marc into my life, it was because my "singleness-to-glory ratio" was now fully maximized; for me, it was time to partner with someone and learn how to bring God glory together.

I know firsthand clichés don’t work in the moment—they never do. If you’re single, the last thing you want to hear is someone telling you how to find an easy answer. Clichés are never enough and they rarely comfort or encourage. What I appreciated most from people when I was single was giving me their time. I needed someone to talk to and listen to me and my complaints. I needed to know that all my dating crises were going to be worth it someday, and that I hadn’t completely messed up so badly that God couldn’t bring someone into my life, or fulfill me on my own. I needed to be reminded that I could even take advantage of all God had for me during any time.

Even if you feel like you don’t matter—or you wish you were having marriage books thrown at you instead of tired clichés—you’re worth it. Maybe God does write love stories—but the bigger, greater story is open to everyone, no matter what stage of life they are in.

Renee Johnson Fisher is a spirited speaker and writer to twentysomethings. Her second book, Not Another Dating Book (Harvest House), releases February 2012, and you can find Renee blogging at DevotionalDiva.com. 

184 Comments

Charlezz Pharrell Banks Vegaz

3

Charlezz Pharrell Banks Vegaz commented…

OMG!! This is certainly a shocking and a genuine Testimony..I visited a forum here on the internet on the 20TH OF SEPTEMBER 2014, And I saw a marvelous testimony of this powerful and great spell caster calleddr kabbaon the forum..I never believed it, because I never heard nor learnt anything about magic before.. Not a soul would have been able to influence me about magical spells, not until dr kabba did it for me and restored my marriage of 8 years back to me and brought my spouse back to me in the same 48hours just as I have read on the internet..I was truly astonished and shocked when my husband knelt down begging for forgiveness and for me to accept him back.. I am really short of expressions, and I don't know how much to convey my appreciation to you dr kabba, you are a God sent to me and my entire family.. Here is ..... His Email: 24hourslovespell@gmail.com

Smith Catina

4

Smith Catina commented…

Now that i got my man back it's would be unfair if I don't share my experience to the whole world on how i got him back.That is why I am here this day to let the world know that there are real powers in spell casting as DR OCUSODO has proven to me by bringing joy and happiness to my relationship and my family in just 2days after i got him contacted . I never believed in any of these things until i loosed my boyfriend, I required help until i found drocusodospellcaster@gmail.com or drocusodospellcaster@gmail.com A great spell caster,who cast a love spell for me, and he assured me that I will get my boyfriend back in two days after the spell has been cast. two days later, my phone rang, and so shockingly, it was my boyfriend who has not called me for past 4 months now, and made an apology for the heart break, and told me that he is ready to be my back bone till the rest of his life with me.Dr OCUSODO released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him. And opened his eyes to picture how much we have share together. As I'm writing this testimony right now I'm the most happiest girl on earth and me and my boyfriend is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up. So that's why I promised to share my testimony all over the universe.All thanks goes to Dr OCUSODO for the excessive work that he has done for me. Below is the email address in situation you are undergoing a heart break, and I assuring the whole universe that as he has done mine for me,he will definitely help anyone that takes time to get him contacted on. drocusodospellcaster@yahoo.com or drocusodospellcaster@gmail.com +2349067457724, WEXSITE https://drocusodospellcast.wixsite.com/dr-ocusodo

Smith Catina

4

Smith Catina commented…

Now that i got my man back it's would be unfair if I don't share my experience to the whole world on how i got him back.That is why I am here this day to let the world know that there are real powers in spell casting as DR OCUSODO has proven to me by bringing joy and happiness to my relationship and my family in just 2days after i got him contacted . I never believed in any of these things until i loosed my boyfriend, I required help until i found drocusodospellcaster@gmail.com or drocusodospellcaster@gmail.com A great spell caster,who cast a love spell for me, and he assured me that I will get my boyfriend back in two days after the spell has been cast. two days later, my phone rang, and so shockingly, it was my boyfriend who has not called me for past 4 months now, and made an apology for the heart break, and told me that he is ready to be my back bone till the rest of his life with me.Dr OCUSODO released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him. And opened his eyes to picture how much we have share together. As I'm writing this testimony right now I'm the most happiest girl on earth and me and my boyfriend is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up. So that's why I promised to share my testimony all over the universe.All thanks goes to Dr OCUSODO for the excessive work that he has done for me. Below is the email address in situation you are undergoing a heart break, and I assuring the whole universe that as he has done mine for me,he will definitely help anyone that takes time to get him contacted on. drocusodospellcaster@yahoo.com or drocusodospellcaster@gmail.com +2349067457724, WEXSITE https://drocusodospellcast.wixsite.com/dr-ocusodo

Keyanna Lauren

11

Keyanna Lauren commented…

I want to share my testimony to the world. My marriage has been a blessing until few months ago when my life almost get sucked. A strange woman took my husband's love away from me. He left me and our 3 kids to this lady. I was in shocked because i know my husband still loves me. I tried all i could to get him back but the more i tried the more he went far away from me. All my effort yielded nothing. I was almost giving up and wanted to file for a divorce. I lived in pains for 3 good months without any plan of getting out of this mess. Till I met an old school friend who show me to Lord masuka his email lordmasukaspelltemple@hotmail.com a spell caster who then restore the happiness to my family and my life. His spell worked so fast that I could not even believe it. He's great for as much as I can tell. Am still grateful to him till tomorrow for his spell works. My husband came back with apologies for all the pain he has cost me. You can also contact him on his email for all your relationship or marital problems; lordmasukaspelltemple@hotmail.com or call him +2347053105287 You can visit his website http://lordmasukalovespelltemple.webs.com/ or add him on Skype lord masuka or facebook Harry masuka

Henry Bliz

1

Henry Bliz commented…

Am just an over exerted today for what this great man call Dr, KEN of drkenspellcaster@aol.com has just done in my marital life, after all the emotional pain that i have being passing through all this years have be turn to joy .and i will like you on this forum to help me in thanking him because for the past two years my husband has been cheating on me with a lady and this has course the family a lot of problems and our baby everybody where the one perpetual taking the pain because at this time my husband don't normally come home to ask after the child or even care about what the child needed so with all this problems i was not happy in my marriage and i started going for different kind of marriage canceling and looking for solution every where not until this faithful day when i was browsing on the Internet i saw a testimony shared by miss Tessy Jerry UK about this Dr,KEN and i also contacted him for help and that was how he gave me some instructions and i followed what ever he told me and i was surprise when he said to me go my child for all will be fine within the next 24 hours .and within the 24 hours i actually received a call from my husband who has not called me for some months now asking after the child and i. and that was the end of my marriage problems . so this is why i promise to testify to the whole world about this man Dr KEN and if any is also depress with such problems contact him now on drkenspellcaster@aol.com also call him on +18038451572 and you will also find success and all your heart desire will be granted by Dr.KEN

Please log in or register to comment

Log In